How To Know If you Are Been AbusedHere are some questions to ask yourself
- Have you ever been physically hurt, such as being kicked, pushed or punched, by your partner or ex-partner?
- Has your partner ever used the threat of hurting you to get you to do something?
- Has your partner tried to keep you from seeing your family, going to school, or doing other things that are important to you?
- Do you feel like you are being controlled or isolated by your partner?
- Have you ever been forced by your partner to have sex when you did not want to?
- Has your partner ever insisted on having unsafe sex?
- Is your partner very jealous and always questioning whether you are faithful?
- Does your partner regularly blame you for things that you could not control or insult you?
- Are you ever afraid of your partner or of going home? Does he/she make you feel unsafe?
Violence Other signs of Domestic that observers might see in a relative or friend:• Being prone to accidents
• Injuries that could not be caused by accident, or do not match the story of what happened to cause them.
• Injuries on many different areas of the body, especially areas that are less likely to get hurt, such as the face, throat, neck, chest, abdomen, or genitals.
• Many injuries that happened at different times.
• Bruises, burns, or wounds that are shaped like objects such as teeth, hands, belts, a cigarette tip, or look like the injured person has a glove or sock on (from having a hand or foot place in boiling water).
• Seeking medical help a lot.
• Waiting to or not seeking medical help for serious injuries.
• Use of alcohol or drugs
• Suicide attempts
Is domestic violence by a husband or boyfriend the woman's fault?Abuse is not the woman's fault. Causes for violence are many, but the blame certainly does not lie on the shoulders of the woman being abused. Often, substance abuse is involved with domestic violence. Over half of the defendants accused of murdering their spouses and almost half of the victims of spousal murders were drinking alcohol at the time of the offense.
IDENTIFIED ROOT CAUSES OF VIOLENCERoot Causes of Domestic Violence
• Power and control
• Growing up in a cycle of violence and abuse
• Distorted concept of manhood
Root Causes of Violence
• Poverty and unemployment
• Underemployment and economic disequilibrium
• Lack of housing and displacement
• Circumstances of racism and injustice
• Alcohol and substance abuse
• Hopelessness and despair
Is there a cure for domestic violence?Even when abuse ends, either by repairing the situation or leaving the situation, survivors of domestic violence experience a high incidence of depression and suicidal ideas; they attempt suicide and have elevated rates of substance abuse, chronic fatigue, anxiety, sleeping and eating disorders, and nightmares. Professional counseling is very important for survivors of domestic violence.
Do skills learned in self-defence workshops really do any good?Research has shown that using self-defence measures during rape reduces the chance of a completed rape; however, those measures also increase the risk of additional physical injury.
What should I do if someone I know is being subject to domestic violence? If you or someone you know is affected by domestic violence please call the WOMEN AND CHILDREN INTELLECTUAL ENHANCEMENT CENTRE 097-818-369 Today